Hi there friends! Well it’s been about 8 months since my last confession err post. But I’m happy to be back at it again. I made decision for myself in 2017 to write more often because it brings me joy – so here’s me trying to write and get my thoughts out there!
To say that 2016 was a whirlwind would be an understatement. Between trying to figure out this whole things called, “motherhood,” and returning back to work, making time for physical therapy and recovery and finding time for friends and family, it’s really been a jam-packed year. Nevertheless, at the end of each year, I try to find time to reflect so that I can make the next year even better by taking lessons I’ve learned and successes I’ve had from the previous year with me.
Here are the Top 3 Things I’m choosing to work on in 2017:
- Changing my Lens. As Founder of The Good Life Project, Jonathan Fields, has said: “[Happiness] is not a place at which you arrive, it’s a lens through which you see and create your world.” In the relentless pursuit of happiness that many of us encounter, it’s too easy to think of happiness as a destination: “if I get this thing, then I’ll be happy…” and no matter what you attain or achieve, it’s NEVER the case – and if it is, it’s a fleeting feeling of happiness! When you start to look at happiness, or living a good life as a framework or lens to look through – all of a sudden – the holy grail of happy is already here! My goal for 2017 is to spend more and more time living through the Good Life framework. Taking things that stress me out, cause me anxiety, etc. and look at them through a different lens.
- Leading with Gratitude. As author Melody Beattie once wrote, “Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Over the past 2 years as I’ve taken on more leadership responsibilities, and in recently becoming a mother, I’ve experienced so much more anxiety, worry, fear, and just overall draining feelings that have me wishing for a different or simpler life – the grass if always greener… When I’ve taken the time to reflect on what my life actually is, I very quickly realize that I don’t want anything different. That I’m exactly where I want to be, doing exactly what I love to do. When I approach my life from a place of gratitude, I instantly feel lighter, happier, and so much stronger. I’m making the commitment to myself each day to spend 10 minutes journaling what I’m grateful for, because it’s making a profound difference in the way I feel, think, and the lens from which I’m able to lead my life
- Single Tasking. In a world of over-stimulation, multiple screens, infinite ways to connect and talk with people, it’s even easier to feel alone and isolated. How is that possible?? We are avoiding true, real, raw connection, even eye contact. I think it’s a defense mechanism to feel a little connected without having to put yourself out there. I can’t tell you how many meetings I’ve sat in, or parties I’ve attended where everyone is heads down in their computers or phones while important and meaningful things are being discussed (myself included!). My goal for 2017, is to give more focus to one thing at a time. If I’m in a meeting, I’m all in! If I’m at a dinner or party, my phone is put away (just reachable for baby emergencies or a quick photo opp). If I’m working on a project, I’m not also checking emails and texting my mom. The more I focus on one thing at a time, the more productive I actually am, the more connected to others I feel, and the more I’m able to truly appreciate the present moment, and honestly guys – it REALLY helps to reduce my stress and anxiety!
I’m not sure if these things are cliché, or passe, or whatever. But after looking back on 2016, shifting my perspective, leading with gratitude, and striving for true, singular connection are three ways that I feel like I can really grow, shed some ickys, and better, more positively connect and impact others in 2017. I hope that my goals get you thinking about yours.
In sweat & smiles,